Holidays A Difficult Time?
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The Holidays can be a very difficult time for many people. It seems like whatever people are going through the Holidays magnify the intensity of it. For people who feel lonely the Holidays can feel excruciatingly lonely. For people trying to quit an addiction to alcohol or cigarettes or drugs the Holidays can make it about 1,000 times more difficult. People dealing with a loss of some kind, be it a romantic separation or the loss of a loved one may find the Holidays to be more than they can handle.
If the Holidays this year are difficult for you in some way my heart goes out to you. I hope that you can find the true healthy kind of comfort you need during this time. May you find that certain something inside of you that meets you exactly where you are with gentleness, acceptance, love and compassion. This might be an important time for you to do something extra special for yourself. Treat yourself to a massage or sauna or whatever feels like spoiling yourself in a healthy and loving way.
This is a good time to practice being your own best friend and if you are alone this is the perfect time for this! This best friend of yours knows everything there is to know about you and accepts it all, more than that, loves you completely. Pretend you are your own best friend in this way and think “what would this best friend say to me right now?” … or … “what would this best friend and I do right now to make this time less depressing or painful?” … and make sure you say or do whatever comes to you.
Let this be your guiding question for this time and all times -
“What is the most loving thing I can do for myself right now?”
Whenever you are in pain or confused this question can be a life saver if you sincerely inquire with it and then take action based upon the answer that comes to you. I have written a lot about saying YES to our pain. This is always important, among many other things it takes the sting out of the pain. Our minds can be very talented at adding insult to injury. It’s hard enough in life to deal with the pain we have but then to wish it wasn’t there, to hate it only makes it worse. When you REALLY GET THIS you will orient very differently to the pain you feel.
So, my friend, this one goes out to you -
May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face;
the rains fall soft upon your fields and until we meet again,
may God hold you in the palm of His hand.
-traditional gaelic blessing
Happy Holidays!
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Thanks, I needed that!
Glad to hear it Steve!